tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213038.post272521160323115955..comments2023-11-05T05:25:08.553-06:00Comments on I'm not blogging, ya dunderhead!: Twenty-Five Years Ago TodayEyeRytStufhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05490634373460113381noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213038.post-70115074681133949322010-02-17T10:59:56.832-06:002010-02-17T10:59:56.832-06:00Most teenagers resent their parents for something....Most teenagers resent their parents for something. You resented your dad for being older. Truth is, if it hadn't been that it likely would have been something else. Mark Twain said something about believing his father was the stupidest man he'd ever met when he was 17 and couldn't believe how much smarter the old guy got when he turned 27. The thing you were denied was the chance to know your dad when you were in your twenties and able to appreciate him man to man. The relationship changes. They are still your parents but ~ usually ~ they no longer feel the need to parent you and it settles into a friendship and that is really wonderful. <br /><br />However, you are right in the fact that you are missing out on something wonderful if you are still unable to achieve intimacy with anyone in your life. You should tell your friends, family, etc. that you care about them and appreciate their friendships or whatever relationship you have them. You said it yourself. You learned a painful lesson about mortality and unfinished business with the people that you love. The next time you go to funeral, and all the times after that, do your best to make sure that the deceased knows how much you cared.<br /><br />This was clearly a painful blog to write.... even more painful to live. I just don't want you to ever have to write another one. One should be enough for anyone.<br /><br />RobinRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7213038.post-63630495096455042862010-02-17T05:01:07.037-06:002010-02-17T05:01:07.037-06:00WOW! You sure know how to shock people! Death in i...WOW! You sure know how to shock people! Death in itself is shocking as it brings us in touch with our own mortality. But you don't spare punches in this post. I lost two friends recently, too, (coincidently remembered them in my last post just as you were writing this)...If you ever get around to it, read Irvin Yalom's "Staring at the Sun". Very interesting book about learning from death and dealing with our feelings surrounding it. <br /><br />TAKE CARE! Chin up and keep walking!Purple Cowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016727639028322093noreply@blogger.com